Values 

1) Take a look at the Values below and write out 20 values you believe you possess or are important to you.

Accuracy 
Achievement 
Adaptability 
Adventure 
Affection 
Affluence 
Alertness 
Ambition 
Assertiveness 
Authenticity 


Balance
Beauty
Boldness 
Broadmindedness 


Calmness Capability
Career
Caring
Clear thinking 
Compassion 
Competence 
Confidence 
Conscientiousness 
Consideration 
Contentment 
Contribution 
Cooperation 
Courage
Creativity 
Customer Service 


Dependability 
Determination 
Diligence 
Discipline 
Distinction 
Dynamism 


Education 
Effectiveness 
Encouragement 
Energy
Enjoyment 
Enterprise 
Enthusiasm 
Excellence
Faith
Fitness
Flexibility
Focus 
Forgiveness 
Freedom 
Friendship 
Fulfillment 

Generosity 
Gentleness 
Good attitude 
Good humour 
Growth 

Happiness 
Hard work 
Health 
Helpfulness 
Honesty
Hope
Humility 

Imagination 
Impartiality 
Independence 
Innovation 
Integrity 

Joviality 
Joy

Kindness 
Knowledge
 
Leadership 
Learning
Love
Loyalty
Maturity
Method 
Meticulousness 
Modesty 

Naturalness 
Nurturing 

Optimism 
Organization 
Originality

Passion
Patience
Peace 
Perseverance 
Persistence 
Personal fulfillment 
Personal mastery 
Playfulness 
Pleasantness 
Politeness 
Possessiveness 
Practicality 
Precision 
Professionalism 
Progress 
Prosperity 
Punctuality 
Purposefulness 

Quality 
Quickness 

Resourcefulness 
Respect 
Responsibility 
Satisfaction 
Security 
Self-actualization 
Self-control 
Sensibility 
Simplicity 
Sincerity 
Skill
Sociability 
Status
Strength 
Success 
Sympathy

Tact
Talent
Teamwork 
Thankfulness 
Thoroughness 
Tolerance 
Tranquillity 
Trustworthiness 
Truthfulness 


Understanding 
Uniqueness 
Value 
Versatility 
Victory
Vigor

Warmth 
Willpower 
Wisdom
Wit

Youthfulness 

Zeal Kindness 

2) Now, take the twenty values and put them into two columns
a) Values you believe you have or possess.  Look back in your life and reflect on your behaviour and see what it is you did in the past that illustrates that this value is something you have acted on.
b) Values you believe you would like to have.  Again look back in your life and see where you have not done something you felt you should of done and did not. This column is for items you would like to do or should do and do not. 

3) Now that you have the two columns, remove 50% of the words you wrote.

4) Now that you have less items in your columns 50% of the words you wrote again. (if you can)

What you now have is a word or two that describes your true values and a word or two that describes values you would like to live.  How to do this is not with force but rather by making the new value SAFE to have and live with.

Congratulations you now have the ability to distinguish the difference between what you really value and what you would like to value. Knowing this can reduce the strife within.